Not Guaranteed

Often grief is associated with death and only death. How untrue that association is. I often wonder how much damage is done to our hearts when we think we can only grief the loss of a life.  Grief is the loss of an expectation. The expectation of  how you imagined life to be. Maybe you thought you would work at the same company until you retired and then you get laid off. Maybe you thought your marriage would look differently than it does. Maybe a loved one is taken from you due to death or other life circumstances. Whatever it is we all grief. We all have un dealt with grief. I don't think that grief can be resolved. Grief is not something to be resolved. It's something to be acknowledged. Worked through. Our grief wants to be named. It wants to have the chance to be felt. I believe that grief stays with us in some varying degrees. I will continue those thoughts in a post yet to be written.  Elisabeth Kübler-Ross created the 5 stages of grief. But unfortunately it was mi...

If you don't know me, my name is Emily Ponczoch. I am 30 years old. I have two beautiful children. A husband who is both handsome and wonderful. We have a dog who sometimes I forget to feed cause as mentioned above...I have two kids. Don't worry he is happy, loved, and could probably benefit from losing a few pounds.   I am an 8 on the Enneagram. Myers Briggs says that I am an ISFJ. In short I am introverted by nature. I can be quiet and some would say serious. I have a strong sense of justice. I want the world to be black and white. I want there to be clear cut path to success. I want to know where my place is. Where your place is. I want to know that exactly how God operates because then life can be predictable. Underneath all of that is someone who cares about others. All these things matter to me because I care. Some days it may not appear that I do because I am too busy sorting everything out and avoiding emotions that will cause pain. So basically everything in life goes...